Ok and when you enter the interview room, what do you like to see as a recruiter?
A REAL SMILE. I smiled, I don’t know if it was real or not, and finally I asked
Do you notice the difference as a recruiter?
What do you think? She smiled, and that did seem like a real, natural smile.
A smile is controlled by 2 muscle groups. She continued.
The major zygomatics on both sides of the face
The orbicularis that pull the eyes back. These last ones mentioned create the expression of “crow’s feet”. The first (zygomatic) are used consciously and therefore generate false smiles. The second act with the subconscious and stretch the lateral muscles of the eyes. Real smiles occur in the subconscious (we have no control over what makes us happy or smile).
And how can I try to put on a natural smile when I’m in an interview and I only remember my nerves? The English word “cheese” used in the photos causes the orbicularis muscles to pull back and a smile closer to a natural one is produced. Think or say to yourself “cheese” and the eye muscles will give you a smile that is closer to the real thing. The part of the face between the eye and the eyebrow causes it to move in a real smile as well.
Okay, we smiled in the tcp interview because… I really don’t know why we should do it.
Because it keeps the attention on the interlocutor (the recruiter). Since we are born we know that crying attracts attention and smiling keeps attention. Smiling is a non-verbal way of showing a non-threatening attitude.
Do you seriously think about “threats” in an interview?
No no, it’s more basic than that, more primitive. The natural thing is to receive a smile in return even if neither of them is natural Such is the power of a smile. And that action will give us two results. 1) The recruiter is more than likely to smile back, and by doing so is more likely to have a good overall feeling of the interview. 2) We will feel more comfortable because he or she is the person we want to connect with.
The recruiter doesn’t have to smile either, right? -Well, if he stays serious it’s because he’s doing something else or because he’s holding back his smile. Actually, when we smile, it is produced by a mirror neuron that generates a tendency to return what he sees: the smile in this case. It is therefore vital, because even if you do not feel happiness, it does generate a positive response in people around you. The more you smile, the more positive reactions you will get from others. This is because the brain can separate the smile from the whole body. It seemed funny to me to have a conversation with a recruiter only about smiles. Studies say that people who lie tend to smile less .- And fake smiles?
They tend to be asymmetrical, more forced on one side of the face than on the other. (The left one smiles more), there are also the tight-lipped smiles. (She made the gesture). They Send a message that the person who smiles is hiding something (a secret) or keeping her opinion to herself and is not going to share it.
But, is it very common? -Oh, more than you think, in fact it is the favorite of a woman who doesn’t want to admit that she doesn’t like a person. Be careful if your recruiter (she) puts this smile on. She smiled again. Other women will understand this sign much better than men.
talking about this, you also know the “smirk”, the smile as well as halfway…
The crooked smile, of course. It contains emotions on both sides. In the West it is a deliberate, calculated smile that implies sarcasm.
And the one with the jaw. Which seems halfway between a smile and a full laugh. It gives the impression of a very natural laugh. Very authentic. We like it. Smiling always has beneficial effects And on the contrary, not smiling produces less eye contact and in a meeting or interview it is something that we must take into account.
Women smile more than men (it is a pacifying sign probably passed on from generation to generation). Men who smile more are more persuasive than women. So in summary, yes. You have to smile in a selection process, not pretend or force it to show, but try to be relocated and smile. It is important, it makes a difference on a subconscious level in the recruiter. That conversation left me feeling good all day.
